Comments on: thinking

By: Katie

Katie — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 03:29:00 +0000

I’ve been mulling over this post for a few days now. I think it’s something that a lot of people struggle with… I know I do. But just because I look back and wonder, or even acknowledge, that yes, I made sacrifices and different choices because of Sheldon, that doesn’t mean that my life isn’t good.

I struggle with my seemingly “insignificant” problems. I mean really, on the grand scale of problems in the world, sometimes it feels like I should just sit down and shut up. Let me know if you figure it all out, heh.

By: Kelley @ Magnetoboldtoo

Kelley @ Magnetoboldtoo — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 09:59:51 +0000

Everyone feels that way sometimes. Even the most ‘together’ people.

And whatever is bothering you is NOT insignificant. Even if it is an ant or the fact that your damn son refuses to pee inside the toilet OR lift up the seat and not five minutes ago, after having had a wonderful shower, I went to the loo and sat in pee and wanted to kick someone.

Phew. That feels better. Do that. It is good. {not the sitting in pee thing, the venting thing}

By: Sadia

Sadia — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 22:41:45 +0000

I understand.

I feel like I’m at a crossroads. I either need to decide to put planning and my goals off, or DO something about them. Before I got married, I had a plan. Get my PhD, become a professor, be brilliant and teach. Then I met my husband, decided to quit school with an MA (unrelated to getting married), had kids.

I decided to be the best mother I could be.

Now, though, it’s hard to remember who *I* am, outside of mom, army wife, and techie grunt. Perhaps it’s okay to put off The Great Next Thing until my husband retires from the army. I’ll be either 41 or 51 when that happens – plenty of time to get a degree in Information Science and become a librarian, right?

But where do I find meaning in the meantime? I don’t want to put pressure on my kids to give my life meaning. They’ll have their own lives to worry about.

Ugh. The hardest part of this is that you CAN choose to go through the motions without a plan, but for a thinker like you, that seems unthinkable.
Sadia´s last blog ..It gets different

By: lceel

lceel — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 21:11:36 +0000

There are two factors to accommodate in life – your head and your heart. Almost invariably, those two factors are in conflict. Your head tells you one thing – your heart tells you another, and you are forced to choose.

People who choose the head ALL the time? Leona Helmsley.

People who choose the heart ALL the time? Mother Theresa.

Most people, thankfully, wind up somewhere in between those extremes. But in doing so, always look back to choices that could have been made differently. Good OR bad.
lceel´s last blog ..Monday Meanders 1-10

By: Courtney

Courtney — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 16:30:59 +0000

I think this is totally normal! If we didn’t look back on what are plans used to be and compare them with where we are, we wouldn’t be able to see what we have gained in the process! Totally makes sense!
Courtney´s last blog ..Wrapping it up!

By: Kel

Kel — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 13:23:44 +0000

This is exactly how I feel right now, only since I turn 40 this year, it’s a reflection on an additional decade of life. And that’s why I have filled lotsa notebooks over the last 9 or 10 months. And why there are drafts at my blog. And why I type out an email to the ex and hit delete.

I would think it would be worse if you didn’t pause and reflect. At least you are looking it in the eye and adjusting. Plus we can only plan so much, life has a way of happening without us. Sometimes it’s better not to try to wrangle it in to submission.
Kel´s last blog ..Marshmallows Roasting by the Space Heater

By: Shamelessly Sassy

Shamelessly Sassy — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 04:38:27 +0000

@Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing],
Thank you.
-Amanda

By: Tiffany D

Tiffany D — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 03:58:32 +0000

Okay, it’s like you took the words in my head, and typed it out. As much as I enjoy being a mom, there’s this part of me that woke up one day and said, “Holy shit! I’m 30!” and started thinking about all those grand plans I’d had and never actually achieved. It’s really ironic b/c I was just goofing off one day and wrote an entire chapter about something like this. I think you make perfect sense, and I think there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. We make our own destiny’s, and I’m sure that when you’re 99 and looking back at your life, you won’t regret one thing. Hang in there! Sending Hugs!

By: Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing]

Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 03:47:24 +0000

You’re totally normal. And totally loved. Well, by me anyway.
Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing]´s last blog ..Peepee penguin footie pajamas. Hypothetically.